Nothing like a simple subject to get things started. But hey, I’m not one to do things simply or to back down from a challenge. So, let’s do this!
Why do bad things happen to good people?
It’s a thought that plagues a lot of us. I think of it plenty of times at work when a loving family comes in with their equally beloved pet, who has been well cared for and thought of throughout its life; and I have to tell them some tragic news and ultimately a life is lost that day.
It’s also happened, personally, to the best of us. Something tragic has happened in our lives. The examples that come to my mind all seem to relate to losing something–or someone–we love. A bad thing happening to a good person in my life sent me into a tearful spiral that still drags me down to this day.
The question so many people–myself included–ask is WHY? WHY does this bad thing have to happen to a good person. A person who cares for others; who puts the needs of others before their own; who strives for harmony and love in the world. WHY do they get handed this pain and suffering?
Some might say it’s The Will of a deity. A smiting force that has been building up for generations of bad behavior to be taken out on this singular individual. Some say it’s karma. The force of all of your negative energy coming back around to kick you down. And, some say it just is. There is no fancy explanation. No rhyme or reason. It just is what it is.
For me, I don’t what feels worse: to think that bad things that come my way are the result of an external force that may (or may not) have something to do with my own actions. Or, to think that there is no reason why. Bad things just happen to good people. I suppose it’s the control freak in me that wants to believe that I have SOMETHING to do with what happens to me, even if it’s a bad thing. But, what if it is just the energies of the universe working themselves out?
It may seem like a really metaphysical thing to think about “energies” impacting the ebb and flow of our lives…but that’s kind of what The Laws of Thermodynamics tell us. The universe is FULL of energy and that energy can never be destroyed or created; it can only change its form. And, ultimately, all energy moves toward entropy. That perfect moment where everything is in equilibrium but is also totally, tragically, beautifully disordered. What if bad things happening to good people is the universe getting a little bit closer to entropy? You’ve worked so hard to create a good and ordered environment where everyone and everything around you is cared for. Then, the flow and direction of energy changes and this tragic event comes along and blows everything apart. And it hurts. It hurts so much you can barely move; barely speak; barely breathe. All of the energy and order you had just dissipated into this nether-sphere of unattainable and non-useful energy. Entropy.
But, what if you could redirect that energy? Claim it and channel it in a way that suits you and your system? If grief and loss and sadness threaten to consume you, let it…in a way. See them. Acknowledged them. Embrace them. Hold those feelings tight to yourself and make them a part of who you are. Because those feeling carry power. And energy. And, rather than fighting against those feelings–where not only do they already drain what strength you have, but also fighting forces you to give up your last bits of remaining energy trying to keep them at bay–channel their energy into your system. And maybe, hopefully, you can convert energy that was tragic at its start to something messy and imperfect but nonetheless beautiful.